By Cheryl Magness
I
am no longer in the pop culture loop. Movies and television shows come on to
the scene, rock everyone’s world, and depart, and I am none the wiser. On the
rare occasion that I open a People magazine in the checkout line at the
grocery store, I don’t recognize 90 percent of the personalities therein.
But
I would have to be dead to have not heard about Fifty Shades of Grey. I
have heard about it so much, in fact, that I’m sick of it. Nevertheless here I
am, tossing my two cents in with everyone else’s.
Actually,
though, this article is not about Fifty Shades of Grey. I have not
read the book. I will not see the movie. I don’t think it is worth my
attention. I wish everyone else agreed.
But
as I ponder my reasons for rejecting this particular piece of popular culture,
I can’t help but wonder: why are we so indignant about this movie and not
others?
I
understand that there is an element of this film (and book) that goes beyond
your garden variety R rating. There is abuse and perverseness, both of which
the marketing of the movie seems intent upon normalizing. But the more I think
about it, the more I wonder about the defensibility of watching any movie that
contains this level of sexual content and nudity, “normal” or not. Is it really
deserving of my time and money?
I
have decided that it is not. It’s a decision I think I made in practice, if not
principle, a long time ago. It probably coincides to some extent with becoming
a parent. When there are children in the house, you not only don’t get out to movies
much; you are more careful of what you watch when they are around. This point
was driven home for me about 15 years ago when my husband and I rented an
Academy award winning movie that we had never seen. The children were upstairs
in bed, tucked in for the night. But just a few minutes into the movie, we
turned it off. The opening scene was simply too graphic to watch with children
in the house, even sleeping children. What if one of them woke up, came
downstairs, and stumbled into the television room at precisely the wrong
moment?
But
I think I have also come to the realization that, Academy Award
notwithstanding, that movie was too graphic even for me. I’m not sure when it
happened, but somewhere along the way I became increasingly uncomfortable with
the level of explicitness in many R-rated movies. There are movies that I saw
when I was younger that I would not choose to see today because of the degree
to which they depict sexual content. More and more, I question why it’s
necessary to show so much of the sex act on film, and I can think of no reason
beyond the voyeuristic. Considering that most of us know how it works, do we
really need to see it played out repeatedly on the screen? Particularly when it
is unfortunately quite likely that what we are seeing is not happening within
the context of marriage? Certainly, sex is a part of human existence and is
going to be a significant aspect of the stories we tell. But what ever happened
to fading out and leaving things to the imagination? What ever happened to
suggesting rather than showing? The answer, of course, is that sex sells, which
means it will continue to be depicted on-screen. But Christians should consider
whether they want their dollars contributing to the ongoing support of material
designed only to titillate.
So
the question then becomes, where does one draw the line? Some Christians
believe that any and all occasions of temptation should be avoided. One should
therefore consume no alcoholic beverage because to do so may lead to impaired judgment
or, worse, substance abuse. A female should not bare her shoulders or knees
because the more skin there is exposed, the greater the chance she will cause a
man to commit the sin of lust. Lutherans, in their understanding that sin comes
from within rather than without, don’t typically go to such extremes. We are
also aware of the dangers of pietism, which emphasizes pious living as a
requirement of faith rather than as a natural consequence of it. At the same
time, we acknowledge that there are such sins as gluttony and lust and that we
should desire to avoid situations in which we might find ourselves tempted to
commit them.
I
think most of my fellow Lutherans would agree that pornography is not
harmonious with God’s law and should be avoided in all instances. It is fairly
easy to mark and avoid hardcore porn: in the words of former Supreme Court
Justice Potter Stewart: “I know it when I see it.” But when it comes to movies
that are sexually explicit but not outright pornographic, the judgment is a bit
more difficult. At what point does a sex scene cross the line into pornography?
What is tolerable within the context of a dramatic production, and what is just
too much? Different people probably have different opinions about that, which
means that it is not something about which we ought make a law for others. I do
think, though, that those who love and desire to keep God’s Law need to
carefully consider what they allow themselves (and their children, if they have
any) to be exposed to. That which is seen cannot be unseen. Money that is spent
cannot be unspent. I am not suggesting that a Christian must only consume
moralistic, pietistic material. We live in a fallen world. Good stories reflect
the reality of sin and its effect on people’s lives. But a truly well told
story does so without being gratuitous or voyeuristic.
There is so much music, art and literature in the world that is edifying,
encouraging, and soul-enriching. Our time on earth is but a drop in the eternal
bucket. Why not spend it soaking in the best the world has to offer? Why not
demand good movies, both with our mouths and with our pocketbooks? I know what
you’re thinking: The motion picture Industry doesn’t much care what
confessional Lutherans want, but hey, that’s where DVD players and video streaming come in handy.
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Cheryl is the sister of ten, daughter of two, mother of three, and wife of one. She was an English teacher in a past life but is currently getting a bigger return on her music degree than her English one. Her husband is a Lutheran cantor. When not accompanying one of his choirs, she can most often be found playing piano in the community, homeschooling her youngest, or caring for her aging mother. She blogs at A Round Unvarnish'd Tale.
Amen and amen. Thank you, Cheryl.
ReplyDeleteWell said.
ReplyDeletePerhaps someday everyone will wake up and realize that these movies are flat-out boring.